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Just Try Listening More
I'm sorry BUT... - When an apology is not an apology
Undercover Boss
The Three Ghosts
New Year's Resolutions - they're not just for losing weight
Ready to be a Starter?
Managing The Recovery
My Management Lessons from the past year
Living in a Past Perfect World
What's right with people?
The Power of Recognition
When you have a bad boss
What Did You Do With Your Hour?
The Danger of TWIAB Thinking
Twenty-twenty Vision and Walking 'Round Blind
Department Appreciation Days
Whatever Happened to Civility?
The Dream -- And the Rest of the Story
Thank You for the Rude Service!
Leadership Lessons From My Worst Bosses
Mastering the Bridges
The Boss's Pet
Unfettering Creativity
Stupid Questions
Rest, Relax and Rejuvenate
Wrtng n th age of txtg ("Writing in the Age of Texting")
Sustainable Competitive Advantage -- Learning
A Mandated Business Directive!
Ask them “What do you do best?”
Communication Then and Now
Building High-Impact Leaders
Don't judge a book by its cover
Learning and the Liberation Effect
A Year Without Learning
Five-Step Model to Quick and Easy Testimonial Letters
Happy St. Patrick's Day!
A Positive, Healthy Response to the Recession Blues
"Why Do We Need To Change?"
Making Lemonade out of Lemons
What questions did you ask yourself this week?
Go On: Ask for Help!
“What Have You Learned This Week?”
Get to the Point
Is the Customer Always Right -- Or Does It Matter?
It is Time to Thaw Out!
Before you decide, consult the experts -- your team
You Can’t Do Business During Times Like This. Or Can You?
Giving Thanks For Your Employees
Looking out for your employees in bad economic times
Attention All Managers!
Catch Them Doing Something Right
The State of Happiness
THE BEST INVESTMENT IN TURBULENT TIMES
Work-Life Balance Becoming a Key Tool for Retention
Finding Leadership
The importance of Last Impressions
Taking the Plunge into Google Notebook
The 4-Hour Workweek - Part 2
Don't rush to judgment - Get the facts
The Problem Is Not the Problem - It's Motivation
Develop Employees During the Slow Times
Giving and Getting Support
Four words rarely spoken that effective leaders have mastered.
Lessons from the Sports Page
15 minutes to Learn
Business Etiquette
Experts are everywhere, but not everyone's an expert
The 4-Hour Workweek - Part 1
Everyone Is Your Customer!
The sky is falling! No, the world is flat!
Trust - Who Needs It?
The Passion and the Paycheck
Do I have to Train Management Development Skills?
Think of success as a game of chance...
Going from Peer to Manager
Let's get rid of management
I'm A Manager - Now What Do I Do?
Show Up, Tell the Truth, and Trust the Process
Committing To Change in 2008
Mind Over Matter
Connecting with Friends and Associates
The Age Of Speed And Your Authentic Purpose
Are Training Plans Essential?
Accepting Help Doesn't Mean You Failed
A Time In Your Career to Get Help
Training For Them, Learning For Us
A Success Secret that Can't Be Taught
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Friday, March 5, 2010

Just Try Listening More

I received an email last week from a company promoting 5 ways to communicate to employees.  I was caught by the title and promise of something new and wonderful.  Way down this very long email I found the 5 ways, and sadly nothing new popped up.

What I found interesting though was the direction of these targeted communication tips, each devising a reason to approach employees.  It suggested things like recognition, setting goals and giving employees company updates.  Note the direction of the communication is one way from manager to employee.

I must be old school, but I define communication as a two-way conversation.  Silly me!  I don’t see the need to train managers how to talk as much as how to listen and respond that you are listening!  Don’t get me wrong, it is good to communicate news to your team, but not all communication needs to be this direction.

My general practice as a manager has always been one of “checking in” with staff, or asking probing questions that get the employee to open up.  I find that when I don’t have an agenda, I am less likely to talk and then walk.  I instead learn more when I listen.

I am one of those odd duck managers that share the leader role at meetings.  If I’m not playing moderator all the time, I allow myself the ability to listen and watch for those subtle body language communications.  If I pick up on something I could add value to I communicate my opinion, but for the most part I think managers create a better climate for communication when they listen first.

One other thought that comes to mind worth consideration is the need to allow people time to think and respond.  I was on a conference call a few weeks back when the moderator asked what other issues need to be discussed.  It wasn’t three seconds later that he said, “Oh I have one more thing I need to tell you.”  Friends, my mind doesn’t process that fast and I bet your brain doesn’t either.  When you spring on your audience something new, please give it about 15-seconds before you change to a different topic.  This gives people time to think and formulate a response.

I would encourage you in the next week to look for ways to listen more, and then add a comment below on what you learned from this experiment and how it opened up better communications. 

Jim Hopkins – JK Hopkins Consulting

Posted by Jim Hopkins at 12:44 pm


Thursday, February 18, 2010

I'm sorry BUT... - When an apology is not an apology

Does this sound familiar? “I am really sorry about missing the budget planning conference call this morning. I would have been on the call, but you never confirmed what I was supposed to present so I figured that the call must not be that important. Why didn’t you tell me what I needed to present?”

How about this one?  “I am sorry about not getting the report in by the time you asked me to get it to you, but Todd gave me that other project to work on, and I figured that his project must be important too, so I started working on that other project, and well, one thing led to another and I couldn’t get it all done. You should have told me the deadline was a drop dead deadline. I figured it was just a ‘shoot for’ deadline.”

Here is another one: “Yeah, I know that I shouted at you in the meeting in front of all those other people and perhaps I was a bit harsh by calling you a ‘failure’. Sorry about that. But I make no secrets about the fact that I have a bit of a temper when people don’t get it right the first time. I have no patience for that. And you shouldn’t be so thin-skinned, It’s not like this is the first time I have chewed someone out in these meetings.”

Or how about this? “Okay, I admit it, I sent out the price quotation to the customer without running it by you first for approval. I know I should have so I apologize. But you were really busy yesterday, and when I went to Chuck in finance for backup approval, he was in a meeting, so I just sent it off.”

We have all received – and no doubt given plenty of these sorts of apologies throughout our careers. But when you stop and think about it, these examples above are not apologies at all. They are excuses – all designed consciously or unconsciously to pass the blame over to the other person or onto some other person besides themselves. In all four examples above, the person at fault started by apologizing and then undermined the sincerity of their apology completely by laying the blame squarely at the foot of the person to whom they were apologizing or at someone else’s doorstep. It might sound like an apology, but in reality, it is just the opposite. It is a not-so-subtle attempt to get out of being blamed. It is an attempt to avoid taking responsibility for the problem. This half-baked apology only serves to exacerbate the problem, not take ownership for it and certainly not show remorse.

As a parent, I often talk to my children about the importance of saying “I’m sorry” when they do something wrong, like hurting someone else’s feelings or taking something that does not belong to them without asking politely. And every bit as important as the act of apologizing is the sincerity with which this apology is given. Just this past week, my daughter acted extremely rudely to me and I calmly took away her cell phone for the day, explaining to her that it was not what she had done but HOW she had spoken to me that was the reason I was taking her phone away. This of course only made her madder than before. When she finally decided that she was not going to win this battle of wills, she apologized… by saying “I’m sorry, but it’s not my fault. You should have let me ….” (and it went downhill from there.) She thought she was apologizing but in reality she was just defending her actions the same as before. There was no remorse in her tone. The words “I’m sorry” quickly became hollow and meaningless.

I have talked about the importance of apologizing in a previous blog.  Most of us tend to have great difficulty apologizing in the first place when we screw up (and we ALL screw up). But by apologizing and then defending our actions or, worse yet, turning the table to point out how the other person contributed to the problem or was the primary culprit in creating the problem, we are not only NOT apologizing. We are essentially saying “it’s YOUR fault.” For an apology to truly have value, it needs to be a full apology – one that is sincere and takes responsibility without looking for other scapegoats.

If your goal is to make amends, then admit it when you have dropped the ball. And accept responsibility fully and without “strings attached.” Don’t hide behind excuses. Don’t blame someone else for being “equally to blame.” If you really don’t feel you are the cause, then it’s okay to push back and defend your position. But if you ultimately know in your heart that an apology is in order, make it a full apology. Make it sincere. And make it count. Otherwise, it’s not going to help you move forward in your working relationship with the person who was impacted by your mistake. An apology that is not really an apology is no apology at all and will only make matters worse.

Posted by Tim Jones at 5:37 pm

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Monday, February 8, 2010

Undercover Boss

Last night after the Super Bowl I watched the first episode of the new CBS series, “Undercover Boss.” This reality series shows the experience of CEOs who go undercover and accompany a front line employee on a typical work day. The CEO of Waste Management, Inc., a company with 45,000 employees nationwide, was crestfallen to learn some of the policies he himself had demanded created huge motivational issues. Eyes opened by what he learned, the CEO has instituted company-wide changes.

 

The preview for next week shows a manager manipulating his female employees into performing some demeaning acts. It will be interesting to see how this one plays out.

 

What do you suppose the mid-managers and supervisors think when they find out what their boss is up to? In my experience I’ve never known anyone who sits between the boss and the front line who would welcome that visit.

 

Most companies I’ve worked with as a consultant are too small for the CEO to go undercover. However, many are eager to learn what’s going on that can’t be learned from middle-management. Instead of undercover they use surveys, employee action committees, walking around, asking questions, listening, observing, conducting exit interviews, and so on.

 

What’s been your experience with bosses? As a boss, how do you stay tuned in?

 

 

Posted by Bernice Johnston at 4:55 pm


Monday, February 1, 2010

The Three Ghosts

Maybe I watched too many versions of The Christmas Carole over the holidays, but I wonder what would happen if those three ghosts were to visit a few company CEOs and help them see things differently.  Imagine for a second if your company started doing things completely the opposite of the way they have in the past?  Would that be a good thing or a bad thing?

I think the simple moral of the story is that it is never too late to change.  No matter what bad behaviors we have exhibited in the past, no matter how we have managed processes or people we could do things better from here on out.  For some of us we could be motivated to make these changes just by reading an encouraging blog.  For others, 3 spirits with their own agendas might be necessary to see the light.  And sadly, some will never change under any haunting circumstance.

So for those of you that have someone you wish could change or maybe it is your company that needs to change how could you influence them to perform differently from now on?  If they were to start tomorrow morning with a new attitude, what should be different?

I personally like the Christmas Carole theme for a strategic planning meeting.  The “Ghost of Company Past” begins by discussing the company past tense and what was so meaningful and worked so well.  What did you forget and stop doing?  What would work today that worked in the past?

Then the “Ghost of Company Present” takes a hard look at the company today, and what is happening that you don’t know about.  What startles you about the status quo?  What is lining up as a perfect storm that could threaten your very existence?

Lastly, take a look forward with the “Ghost of Company Future”.  Not the company you want to exist, but the one you are lined up to achieve because of your existing practices.  Is it even close to the reality you want?

Whether the three ghosts visit you or someone else, the experience is only valuable if you wake up refreshed and willing to change.  My wish for you this year is for not only the open mind to see your reality but for the strength of character that may be needed for you to change your ways in a 180 degree about face.

Jim Hopkins – JK Hopkins Consulting

Posted by Jim Hopkins at 11:38 am


Monday, January 25, 2010

New Year's Resolutions - they're not just for losing weight

It’s January, the month we’re all supposed to make resolutions for what we are going to do more of, less of, or be better at in the upcoming year. And that means it’s a full month before I look back and find that I have failed miserably on most counts.

Many of us make New Year’s resolutions about fitness, nutrition, or becoming a more patient parent. We make resolutions to spend more time with our kids, perhaps finally start work on some long-delayed home improvement project, or perhaps finally committing to read more books and watch less TV.

If you’re like most of us, you spend about half your waking hours (or more) between Monday and Friday at work. But how many of us take the time to think about resolutions to improve our “workplace selves”? So this year, before January slips past you, consider making some resolutions about how you show up at work and interact with the people with whom you spend so much of your time each week.

First rule about resolutions: Don’t make them so hard to adhere to that you give up after only a week or two  My 15-year old daughter, after having spent way too much money last year and saving very little, was intent on saving her money this year and resolved to not spend more than $30 a month. That’s a goal I know she cannot possibly stick with over time. So I counseled her to suggest saving HALF her chore money instead. Not nearly as lofty a goal, but one she is far more likely to be able to stick with over time. Similarly, don’t promise to “leave work by 5pm every day” if you have never come close to that target in the past.

I encourage you to think about making some work-related New Year’s Resolutions for yourself this year. What sorts of things can you adjust on the work front to make you more effective at work, experience more job satisfaction or perhaps simply more pleasure interacting with your work colleagues?

Here are just a few ideas to consider:

  • Don’t try to resolve heated, emotionally charged problems over email. Resolve instead to pick up the phone or walk down the hall and talk these things out.
  • Once a day, make a point to show appreciation for something another co-worker has done. It could be something they did that helped you, or perhaps something that helped out someone else on the team.
  • Resolve not to immediately react with criticism or blame until you are certain you have all the facts as to what happened. It is entirely possible things are far more grey than they appear.
  • Pledge to focus on solving problems or preventing them from happening again in the future rather than assigning blame.
  • Commit to saying “I’m sorry” when you know blew it. And mean it. Saying sorry does not make you weak. It makes you human.
  • Commit to certain blocks of time where you will NOT check your email. If you have a big project that is due tomorrow, consider blocking off time that no one is allowed to intrude upon – no phone calls, and no checking emails.
  • On weekends, pledge that you will make at least one of those two days a Work “no fly zone” period where you do not check work emails or work on work-related projects. Everyone (yes, even you) needs time to truly re-charge their batteries.
  • Promise to yourself to take a short walk during the day each day. If that’s not realistic, consider three days a week or two. But find time to clear your thoughts and get some fresh air. Some problems may become clearer after your walk is through.
  • Be committed to asking other colleagues for their ideas more. Even if it has nothing to do with their area of responsibility. People love to be asked for their input. And you just may learn something you never considered. The best ideas often come from the most unexpected places. 

So tell me. What ideas do you have to improve how you experience your work, day in and day out? Don’t try to reinvent yourself overnight by coming up with a list of 20 things you must do all at the same time. Baby steps. Consider two or three things that are important to you – changes that will make you more effective, happier or more connected with the people you work with.

If everybody just did one or two things with a little more focused attention at improving the way they work and interact with others at work, the cumulative impact could be powerful.

Good luck coming up with whatever that small change might be – and sticking with it. I hope the New Year for you is one filled with success, fun and growth – both at work and outside of it.

Posted by Tim Jones at 7:27 pm


Monday, January 11, 2010

Ready to be a Starter?

If you read the sports page, you’ll find many lessons of life and lessons for business when you read between the lines. For example, the Portland Trailblazers have always had something to tell me.

 

This year it’s about players bouncing back, struggling against odds, becoming starting players when they least expect it, when they’ve spent most games on the bench. Because of injuries and illness the team has been decimated. At one point, the Blazers had only nine players as it headed out on a four-game road trip. They were even without a coach, who was in surgery for an injury he incurred when he filled in during practice because there weren’t enough players! Suddenly those players who had seen little or no playing time and little hope of any found themselves as starters, on the front line, off the bench.

 

Another game, this time, football. It was the Alabama-Texas game this week. The headliner quarterback injured out almost before the game started, and a “true” freshman quarterback found himself in charge in the biggest game in his life. No warning, little warm-up. His team didn’t win, but he held his own, his team adjusted, and they, along with the bench warmer turned starter quarterback, did themselves proud.

 

I stand in awe of those who are caught blind-sided, yet step up and take charge even when they expected to live out their lives and careers on the bench as second string. I’ve known several women who had never planned to lead companies finding themselves at the helm in the starting position, taking their organizations through the storm and leading them on to spectacular success.

 

Are you ready to be called on to be a starter, to lead, to get off the bench when the call comes? I’m not sure I am, but I’m working on it as one of my goals for 2010.

Posted by Bernice Johnston at 12:32 am


Monday, January 4, 2010

Managing The Recovery

I am remaining optimistic that 2010 will be the year we start to recover from this sluggish economy and that business will be improving throughout the year.  Yet managing the recovery for most managers seems to be how to adjust to an increase in work flow and get more out of the remaining workers.  Although that is certainly a proper focus, I wonder how best that can be accomplished if your staff starts to turnover at the same time?

I’ve read too many workplace reports the past few months that talk a lot about how over 50% of our workforce has been putting up with the conditions of their employment, waiting for the economy to pickup and then they will seek a new job.  One survey was bold enough to state that 80% of workers are cocooning in their current jobs and will be open to new places to work when things pick up.  So half of the workforce is ready to jump, and over three fourths are willing to move for the right opportunity.

The normal churning that takes place with people looking for new jobs has been slowed because of fewer opportunities.  Yet, could this really be the only reason that so many workers are ready to leave their employers when things get better?

Companies that have spent the last year developing the employer-employee relationship will see less turn over.  These are the companies that have been using the “slow time” to build skills, and train their employees.  They have managers spending time coaching employees, recognizing achievements and celebrating successes.  These companies have continued to focus on their greatest assets beyond talking the talk.

The companies that have been ignoring their employees, and allowing their work environments to deteriorate, will have a much harder time managing the recovery because they will not have the experienced staff to assist them.  They will be spending countless hours interviewing and retraining new people. 

So what kind of New Year will it be at your company?  More of the same old same old; or will you start managing differently now to make managing the economical recovery less complicated?

Jim Hopkins – JK Hopkins Consulting

Posted by Jim Hopkins at 12:05 pm